A very special woman died recently. Her name was Brenda Bourdage. My wife and I attended her funeral at the local Catholic Church. The Church was full – for good reason. The reason was Brenda and the kind of person she was. She died suddenly at the age of sixty-one. She was apparently in good health. She walked four miles every day and played spirited tennis practically every day. A brain aneurism took her suddenly to her death. This was shocking and painful to all who knew her.
Brenda was a role model in a myriad of ways. She lived life fully with love for her husband Bob and the many friends she had. The packed Church was indicative of that. She was loving and loveable.
Some of the reasons she was so well liked is that she was real, very genuine, in her friendly, inviting, sharing, and giving style. You were a better person being around her. She was always positive, saw the best in the other person, excused and forgave those who stumbled in whatever fashion they might have.
When you saw her you were greeted with a warm welcoming smile, an embrace and a kiss on the cheek. Sherry and I were blessed to have many fun times with her and Bob. They were true partners in all endeavors. Bob and Brenda were a great team – on the tennis court, and in life in general. We played tennis with them on a regular basis, along with many other tennis friends who joined in this competitive and fun community. We traveled with them to Jamaica, along with other friends and enjoyed tennis, dancing, beaching, and boating – and some fun dinners!
The speakers chosen to share their experience with Brenda did a marvelous job of capturing her essence with their heartfelt words. The eloquently voiced testimonials were truly representative of the thoughts and feelings of everyone present. We laughed and cried together as aspects of her life were recounted. She was very present and still bringing us together. She always was a great organizer!
At the reception after the service many a person commented, including myself, “I need to be a better person so that when my funeral memorial is held people will say such good things about me.” Thank you, Brenda, for being such a wonderful model and inviting us to be our best self. You did it well, my friend. You organized one helluva “Love In”! You are still with us in Spirit and we remain grateful!