Do you know what “Emotional Intelligence” is? If you want to know it in depth I suggest that you read Daniel Goldman’s insightful book EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE. When published it was on the New York Times bestseller list for a year and a half, sold more than five million copies, and has been translated into forty languages. In this brief writing I would like to share a key component of emotional intelligence as it relates to personal happiness. I am guided in this by an article written by Joan Moran.
Emotional Intelligence is a necessary life skill for creating strong and committed interpersonal relationships. It is useful in decision-making, academic achievement, parenting, management, and most any human interaction.
Emotionally intelligent people are happier because:
- THEY ARE MORE SELF-AWARE. Emotionally intelligent people power up their emotional antenna and pay closer attention to their surroundings and how they fit into a social circle. Conversation, the give-and-take of energy, fires up the neurotransmitters and keeps these people mindful of the contextual involvement. That collective awareness leads to a greater collective feeling of happiness.
- THEY MANAGE THEIR EMOTIONS. In order to manage emotions, it is necessary to understand what emotions are being expressed and what emotions are being felt. That means being fully conscious and aware of what’s going on inside of you so the outside actions can match the inside emotions. Stay present and happiness results.
- THEY ARE MORE SOCIALLY AWARE. Emotionally intelligent people can manage their emotions in social situations and, at the same time, react in a positive manner to the emotional needs of others who want attention and connection. They have the ability to cheer up or calm down others whatever the context. It’s an easy transition to a happy mindset.
- THEY HAVE MORE EMPATHY. Empathy is the ability to stay connected to others and imagine themselves feeling as others do. They use their senses and intuition and, as a result, they usually develop deep responses to those in need of consolation or reinforcement.
- THEY ARE MORE ENGAGED. Emotionally intelligent people have the ability to connect with others by using their emotional awareness to promote cognitive activity that results in understanding the dynamics of others.
For emotional intelligence to be activated you must have access to your emotions. Many people have not developed their emotional capacity, located in the right brain, or have developed defenses that have shut down emotional access. Both of these conditions can be remediated by working with a mental health professional that understands Emotional Intelligence and knows how to teach someone how to enhance it.
Respected Reader, do you feel that you have a highly developed Emotional Intelligence? You might want to get a second opinion from someone who knows you very well. It is a capacity that adds much to your life – happiness!
“The unexamined life is not worth living” Socrates