The above words were penned and sung by the folk story teller Harry Chapin. Chapin was a master at creating songs that spoke of the human condition. His most famous song probably was “Cat’s in the Cradle”, one that most every adult man knows. The titled verse comes from the song, “A better place to be”. It was a tragedy that he died so young. In a “better place”?
The year 2013 is opening up with its annual beckoning to you and me regarding what we are going to do to make our lives better in the upcoming year. In order to go forward you need to know where you are and, thus, what might well be improvement. So, respected reader, I ask the question, “where are you in your overall well being?” Are you “nowhere” or “anywhere” or are you clear-headed, focused, and intentional as to what you are doing in your life? Do you have a positive direction leading to optimal being with regard to your life’s plan as you create a “life worth living”?
If you are “nowhere” or “anywhere” what might you do to get to the “somewhere” of your liking” When I work with individuals or couples I start out with a simple analysis consisting of different categories of life’s existence evaluated on a ten point scale. On the scale zero is “the pits” and ten is “heavenly bliss”. The client is to answer each of the following with a number somewhere between zero and ten. The categories consist of:
- Overall happiness with all things considered
- Marriage (if married); romantic involvement (if single)
- Sex ( quantity and quality)
- Parenting satisfaction
- Career satisfaction
- Overall health
- Life style
- Others, if applicable
I invite you to answer with your own numerical assessment. Then ask yourself why you came up with that number. Perhaps there is an area or two that could help move you from “nowhere” or “anywhere” to “somewhere” desirable as you go forward into the next year with an optimistic attitude and pragmatic game plan. If you are able to do that you will have a
“HAPPY NEW YEAR!”
“The unexamined life is not worth living” Socrates