I remember working with a couple that had decided to divorce. I was mediating what, hopefully, would be a fair settlement. Part of the splitting up process was dividing their holdings, including the photo albums. In this case the man, after looking at the albums, realized that he was not in many of the pictures. He always took them. He cried as he lamented that so many memories
were not recorded for him to look at and share with his kids. He vowed that from that day forward he would ask that he be included in the pictures that were being taken.
A number of years ago we decided to give a special gift to my Mother for Christmas. We asked friends and relatives to gather
pictures of her from as far back as possible. We then took the pictures and made a video out of them, with a musical overlay of some of her favorite songs. In her case one of the songs was Dean Martin’s “Memories are made of this,” which was one of my Dad’s favorites as well. She loved the gift! She invited many people to see it and look for their pictures in the video. Nostalgic tears were shed reminiscing over the many shared experiences with loved ones and dear friends.
My wife Sherry and I have always taken a lot of photographs and videotapes of our kids and various family experiences, such as birthdays, holidays, travels, first day of school, etc… Not too long ago we looked at some pictures taken years ago while on a Colorado ski trip. While looking at the pictures our adult daughter commented, “Sure glad you took me to the orthodontist and
made me wear my retainer.” (In time kids usually recognize why you were so “hard” on them at certain ages – and appreciate the effort. Good parenting is worth the wonderful adult that develops). These pictures are truly family treasures!
Over the last couple of years we brought out those picture albums again, only this time for a different purpose. Both Kris and Brittany went through them very carefully pulling our pictures to be used in video recording for their various wedding functions. They, as well as Sherry and I, reveled in these pictures of the wonderful memories we shared over the years as a family.
What kind of memories are you creating? Are you capturing them for eternity? The effort is worth it. Holiday memories are
particularly special. Make sure you, and every other person, gets an opportunity to be in the picture. Smile!