10 Sex Issues Couples Complain About To Marriage Therapists

The sex life of couples is complex. Insight of millennium! It changes over time and situations, and is usually difficult for most couples to communicate about. It is a frequent issue in marriage counseling. Brittany Wong has chosen ten sexual topics that marriage therapists frequently hear during a counseling session. I will list them and add my commentary.

  1. NEITHER PARTNER WILL MAKE TIME FOR SEX: Example: he liked evenings for making love. She preferred mornings. Thus, nada. It happens. Also, when a couple is disconnected emotionally, or just plain worn out, time is not allotted for it.
  2. FETISHES ARE LAUGHED OFF OR TOTALLY DISREGARDED: Some people have some rather different desires for a sexual encounter. Some are really weird (my bias). Generally those that ask for fetishes are looking for an exciting (to them) romp, but it usually isn’t about making love.
  3. THERE’S A BREAKDOWN IN INTIMACY AFTER AN AFFAIR: Usually the non affairee, especially if it is a woman, will use sex as a weapon, usually cutting it off. (“cutting it off”?)
  4. THE MARITAL BED BECOMES THE FAMILY BED: When children sleep with their parents there usually isn’t time or place for couple sex. Personally I believe kids need to sleep in their own beds, with some family cuddle the morning after.
  5. THE DOG IS IN THE BEDROOM ALL THE TIME: I hear this one often and I cringe! Fido does not need to be in the bedroom.
  6. LESS EFFORT IS PUT INTO LOOKING SEXY: I’m not so sure that one needs to look “sexy” for good sexual relations to happen. However, keeping reasonably in shape and having good hygiene, including brushing teeth, make the invitation more persuasive.
  7. COUPLES AREN’T UPFRONT ABOUT THEIR SEXUAL PREFERENCES: Who is on top? Bottom? Sideways? Around? How much foreplay? What is desired for orgasm.  Anybody blushing?
  8. SEXUAL SIGNALS ARE MISINTERPRETED: Example: “Honey, I’m going to bed” The person headed to bed meant that as an invitation for his/her partner to follow. The partner felt the other was just tired and ready to crash. The invitation needs to be a bit more clear. However, You’d be surprised how some overly direct vulgar invitations are spit out. Use your imagination on this one.
  9. EXHAUSTION OR BUSY SCHEDULES GET IN THE WAY: “I’m too tired”. “I’ve got too much to do”. I believe that time management and energy availability reflect priorities.
  10. SEX BECOMES PERFUNCTORY OR TOO BY THE BOOK: Enthusiasm and variety can make the sexual encounter more enjoyable and desirable.

Well, these are the ones listed by Ms. Wong. I could fill many more articles with what I have heard from couples with regard to their sex life. Maybe another time. Sex, money, and kids are the usual biggest conflict areas for couples. Any of the ten fit your situation?

“The unexamined life is not worth living”    Socrates

The sex life of couples is complex. Insight of millennium! It changes over time and situations, and is usually difficult for most couples to communicate about. It is a frequent issue in marriage counseling. Brittany Wong has chosen ten sexual topics that marriage therapists frequently hear during a counseling session. I will list them and add my commentary.

  1. NEITHER PARTNER WILL MAKE TIME FOR SEX: Example: he liked evenings for making love. She preferred mornings. Thus, nada. It happens. Also, when a couple is disconnected emotionally, or just plain worn out, time is not allotted for it.
  2. FETISHES ARE LAUGHED OFF OR TOTALLY DISREGARDED: Some people have some rather different desires for a sexual encounter. Some are really weird (my bias). Generally those that ask for fetishes are looking for an exciting (to them) romp, but it usually isn’t about making love.
  3. THERE’S A BREAKDOWN IN INTIMACY AFTER AN AFFAIR: Usually the non affairee, especially if it is a woman, will use sex as a weapon, usually cutting it off. (“cutting it off”?)
  4. THE MARITAL BED BECOMES THE FAMILY BED: When children sleep with their parents there usually isn’t time or place for couple sex. Personally I believe kids need to sleep in their own beds, with some family cuddle the morning after.
  5. THE DOG IS IN THE BEDROOM ALL THE TIME: I hear this one often and I cringe! Fido does not need to be in the bedroom.
  6. LESS EFFORT IS PUT INTO LOOKING SEXY: I’m not so sure that one needs to look “sexy” for good sexual relations to happen. However, keeping reasonably in shape and having good hygiene, including brushing teeth, make the invitation more persuasive.
  7. COUPLES AREN’T UPFRONT ABOUT THEIR SEXUAL PREFERENCES: Who is on top? Bottom? Sideways? Around? How much foreplay? What is desired for orgasm.  Anybody blushing?
  8. SEXUAL SIGNALS ARE MISINTERPRETED: Example: “Honey, I’m going to bed” The person headed to bed meant that as an invitation for his/her partner to follow. The partner felt the other was just tired and ready to crash. The invitation needs to be a bit more clear. However, You’d be surprised how some overly direct vulgar invitations are spit out. Use your imagination on this one.
  9. EXHAUSTION OR BUSY SCHEDULES GET IN THE WAY: “I’m too tired”. “I’ve got too much to do”. I believe that time management and energy availability reflect priorities.
  10. SEX BECOMES PERFUNCTORY OR TOO BY THE BOOK: Enthusiasm and variety can make the sexual encounter more enjoyable and desirable.

Well, these are the ones listed by Ms. Wong. I could fill many more articles with what I have heard from couples with regard to their sex life. Maybe another time. Sex, money, and kids are the usual biggest conflict areas for couples. Any of the ten fit your situation?

“The unexamined life is not worth living”    Socrates

The sex life of couples is complex. Insight of millennium! It changes over time and situations, and is usually difficult for most couples to communicate about. It is a frequent issue in marriage counseling. Brittany Wong has chosen ten sexual topics that marriage therapists frequently hear during a counseling session. I will list them and add my commentary.

  1. NEITHER PARTNER WILL MAKE TIME FOR SEX: Example: he liked evenings for making love. She preferred mornings. Thus, nada. It happens. Also, when a couple is disconnected emotionally, or just plain worn out, time is not allotted for it.
  2. FETISHES ARE LAUGHED OFF OR TOTALLY DISREGARDED: Some people have some rather different desires for a sexual encounter. Some are really weird (my bias). Generally those that ask for fetishes are looking for an exciting (to them) romp, but it usually isn’t about making love.
  3. THERE’S A BREAKDOWN IN INTIMACY AFTER AN AFFAIR: Usually the non affairee, especially if it is a woman, will use sex as a weapon, usually cutting it off. (“cutting it off”?)
  4. THE MARITAL BED BECOMES THE FAMILY BED: When children sleep with their parents there usually isn’t time or place for couple sex. Personally I believe kids need to sleep in their own beds, with some family cuddle the morning after.
  5. THE DOG IS IN THE BEDROOM ALL THE TIME: I hear this one often and I cringe! Fido does not need to be in the bedroom.
  6. LESS EFFORT IS PUT INTO LOOKING SEXY: I’m not so sure that one needs to look “sexy” for good sexual relations to happen. However, keeping reasonably in shape and having good hygiene, including brushing teeth, make the invitation more persuasive.
  7. COUPLES AREN’T UPFRONT ABOUT THEIR SEXUAL PREFERENCES: Who is on top? Bottom? Sideways? Around? How much foreplay? What is desired for orgasm.  Anybody blushing?
  8. SEXUAL SIGNALS ARE MISINTERPRETED: Example: “Honey, I’m going to bed” The person headed to bed meant that as an invitation for his/her partner to follow. The partner felt the other was just tired and ready to crash. The invitation needs to be a bit more clear. However, You’d be surprised how some overly direct vulgar invitations are spit out. Use your imagination on this one.
  9. EXHAUSTION OR BUSY SCHEDULES GET IN THE WAY: “I’m too tired”. “I’ve got too much to do”. I believe that time management and energy availability reflect priorities.
  10. SEX BECOMES PERFUNCTORY OR TOO BY THE BOOK: Enthusiasm and variety can make the sexual encounter more enjoyable and desirable.

Well, these are the ones listed by Ms. Wong. I could fill many more articles with what I have heard from couples with regard to their sex life. Maybe another time. Sex, money, and kids are the usual biggest conflict areas for couples. Any of the ten fit your situation?

“The unexamined life is not worth living”    Socrates

The sex life of couples is complex. Insight of millennium! It changes over time and situations, and is usually difficult for most couples to communicate about. It is a frequent issue in marriage counseling. Brittany Wong has chosen ten sexual topics that marriage therapists frequently hear during a counseling session. I will list them and add my commentary.

  1. NEITHER PARTNER WILL MAKE TIME FOR SEX: Example: he liked evenings for making love. She preferred mornings. Thus, nada. It happens. Also, when a couple is disconnected emotionally, or just plain worn out, time is not allotted for it.
  2. FETISHES ARE LAUGHED OFF OR TOTALLY DISREGARDED: Some people have some rather different desires for a sexual encounter. Some are really weird (my bias). Generally those that ask for fetishes are looking for an exciting (to them) romp, but it usually isn’t about making love.
  3. THERE’S A BREAKDOWN IN INTIMACY AFTER AN AFFAIR: Usually the non affairee, especially if it is a woman, will use sex as a weapon, usually cutting it off. (“cutting it off”?)
  4. THE MARITAL BED BECOMES THE FAMILY BED: When children sleep with their parents there usually isn’t time or place for couple sex. Personally I believe kids need to sleep in their own beds, with some family cuddle the morning after.
  5. THE DOG IS IN THE BEDROOM ALL THE TIME: I hear this one often and I cringe! Fido does not need to be in the bedroom.
  6. LESS EFFORT IS PUT INTO LOOKING SEXY: I’m not so sure that one needs to look “sexy” for good sexual relations to happen. However, keeping reasonably in shape and having good hygiene, including brushing teeth, make the invitation more persuasive.
  7. COUPLES AREN’T UPFRONT ABOUT THEIR SEXUAL PREFERENCES: Who is on top? Bottom? Sideways? Around? How much foreplay? What is desired for orgasm.  Anybody blushing?
  8. SEXUAL SIGNALS ARE MISINTERPRETED: Example: “Honey, I’m going to bed” The person headed to bed meant that as an invitation for his/her partner to follow. The partner felt the other was just tired and ready to crash. The invitation needs to be a bit more clear. However, You’d be surprised how some overly direct vulgar invitations are spit out. Use your imagination on this one.
  9. EXHAUSTION OR BUSY SCHEDULES GET IN THE WAY: “I’m too tired”. “I’ve got too much to do”. I believe that time management and energy availability reflect priorities.
  10. SEX BECOMES PERFUNCTORY OR TOO BY THE BOOK: Enthusiasm and variety can make the sexual encounter more enjoyable and desirable.

Well, these are the ones listed by Ms. Wong. I could fill many more articles with what I have heard from couples with regard to their sex life. Maybe another time. Sex, money, and kids are the usual biggest conflict areas for couples. Any of the ten fit your situation?

“The unexamined life is not worth living”    Socrates

The sex life of couples is complex. Insight of millennium! It changes over time and situations, and is usually difficult for most couples to communicate about. It is a frequent issue in marriage counseling. Brittany Wong has chosen ten sexual topics that marriage therapists frequently hear during a counseling session. I will list them and add my commentary.

  1. NEITHER PARTNER WILL MAKE TIME FOR SEX: Example: he liked evenings for making love. She preferred mornings. Thus, nada. It happens. Also, when a couple is disconnected emotionally, or just plain worn out, time is not allotted for it.
  2. FETISHES ARE LAUGHED OFF OR TOTALLY DISREGARDED: Some people have some rather different desires for a sexual encounter. Some are really weird (my bias). Generally those that ask for fetishes are looking for an exciting (to them) romp, but it usually isn’t about making love.
  3. THERE’S A BREAKDOWN IN INTIMACY AFTER AN AFFAIR: Usually the non affairee, especially if it is a woman, will use sex as a weapon, usually cutting it off. (“cutting it off”?)
  4. THE MARITAL BED BECOMES THE FAMILY BED: When children sleep with their parents there usually isn’t time or place for couple sex. Personally I believe kids need to sleep in their own beds, with some family cuddle the morning after.
  5. THE DOG IS IN THE BEDROOM ALL THE TIME: I hear this one often and I cringe! Fido does not need to be in the bedroom.
  6. LESS EFFORT IS PUT INTO LOOKING SEXY: I’m not so sure that one needs to look “sexy” for good sexual relations to happen. However, keeping reasonably in shape and having good hygiene, including brushing teeth, make the invitation more persuasive.
  7. COUPLES AREN’T UPFRONT ABOUT THEIR SEXUAL PREFERENCES: Who is on top? Bottom? Sideways? Around? How much foreplay? What is desired for orgasm.  Anybody blushing?
  8. SEXUAL SIGNALS ARE MISINTERPRETED: Example: “Honey, I’m going to bed” The person headed to bed meant that as an invitation for his/her partner to follow. The partner felt the other was just tired and ready to crash. The invitation needs to be a bit more clear. However, You’d be surprised how some overly direct vulgar invitations are spit out. Use your imagination on this one.
  9. EXHAUSTION OR BUSY SCHEDULES GET IN THE WAY: “I’m too tired”. “I’ve got too much to do”. I believe that time management and energy availability reflect priorities.
  10. SEX BECOMES PERFUNCTORY OR TOO BY THE BOOK: Enthusiasm and variety can make the sexual encounter more enjoyable and desirable.

Well, these are the ones listed by Ms. Wong. I could fill many more articles with what I have heard from couples with regard to their sex life. Maybe another time. Sex, money, and kids are the usual biggest conflict areas for couples. Any of the ten fit your situation?

“The unexamined life is not worth living”    Socrates

The sex life of couples is complex. Insight of millennium! It changes over time and situations, and is usually difficult for most couples to communicate about. It is a frequent issue in marriage counseling. Brittany Wong has chosen ten sexual topics that marriage therapists frequently hear during a counseling session. I will list them and add my commentary.

  1. NEITHER PARTNER WILL MAKE TIME FOR SEX: Example: he liked evenings for making love. She preferred mornings. Thus, nada. It happens. Also, when a couple is disconnected emotionally, or just plain worn out, time is not allotted for it.
  2. FETISHES ARE LAUGHED OFF OR TOTALLY DISREGARDED: Some people have some rather different desires for a sexual encounter. Some are really weird (my bias). Generally those that ask for fetishes are looking for an exciting (to them) romp, but it usually isn’t about making love.
  3. THERE’S A BREAKDOWN IN INTIMACY AFTER AN AFFAIR: Usually the non affairee, especially if it is a woman, will use sex as a weapon, usually cutting it off. (“cutting it off”?)
  4. THE MARITAL BED BECOMES THE FAMILY BED: When children sleep with their parents there usually isn’t time or place for couple sex. Personally I believe kids need to sleep in their own beds, with some family cuddle the morning after.
  5. THE DOG IS IN THE BEDROOM ALL THE TIME: I hear this one often and I cringe! Fido does not need to be in the bedroom.
  6. LESS EFFORT IS PUT INTO LOOKING SEXY: I’m not so sure that one needs to look “sexy” for good sexual relations to happen. However, keeping reasonably in shape and having good hygiene, including brushing teeth, make the invitation more persuasive.
  7. COUPLES AREN’T UPFRONT ABOUT THEIR SEXUAL PREFERENCES: Who is on top? Bottom? Sideways? Around? How much foreplay? What is desired for orgasm.  Anybody blushing?
  8. SEXUAL SIGNALS ARE MISINTERPRETED: Example: “Honey, I’m going to bed” The person headed to bed meant that as an invitation for his/her partner to follow. The partner felt the other was just tired and ready to crash. The invitation needs to be a bit more clear. However, You’d be surprised how some overly direct vulgar invitations are spit out. Use your imagination on this one.
  9. EXHAUSTION OR BUSY SCHEDULES GET IN THE WAY: “I’m too tired”. “I’ve got too much to do”. I believe that time management and energy availability reflect priorities.
  10. SEX BECOMES PERFUNCTORY OR TOO BY THE BOOK: Enthusiasm and variety can make the sexual encounter more enjoyable and desirable.

Well, these are the ones listed by Ms. Wong. I could fill many more articles with what I have heard from couples with regard to their sex life. Maybe another time. Sex, money, and kids are the usual biggest conflict areas for couples. Any of the ten fit your situation?

“The unexamined life is not worth living”    Socrates

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